MsAD had a view about Romeo and Juliet. She mentioned that even if Romeo and Juliet unite, Romeo needs to be extra-cautious in accomodating Juliet. One or two years down the line, he should not refer the US life of Juliet - neither in humorous context nor in a heated argument. Such words may hurt Juliet more than the pain she has now, which may lead to another drift.
MsAD is true in this aspect. This point reminded Silapathikaram literature. In this story, Kovalan is the hero. He leaves his wife, Kanaki, and leads a life with a dancer, Madhavi. Kovalan and Madhavi live together enough to have a baby girl. Thou Madhavi is from an unchaste community and leads a life of dancer, she has a loyal relationship and faithfulness towards Kovalan.
On a spring evening Kovalan and Madhavi were enjoying the breeze by the Cauvery river side in Pokar (modern name is Kaveripattinam). Kovalan sings a song refering the flirting nature of the river. In return, Madhavi sings a song hinting her affection towards someone else.
This creates a drift between them and Kovalan leaves Madhavi, reaches for Kanaki.
(Story picks up further speed from this point towards Kovalan's death and Kanaki's standpoint).
Coming back to Romeo and Juliet, let us hope Juliet will lead a happy life ever after (with whomever she chooses at this juncture).
MsAD is true in this aspect. This point reminded Silapathikaram literature. In this story, Kovalan is the hero. He leaves his wife, Kanaki, and leads a life with a dancer, Madhavi. Kovalan and Madhavi live together enough to have a baby girl. Thou Madhavi is from an unchaste community and leads a life of dancer, she has a loyal relationship and faithfulness towards Kovalan.
On a spring evening Kovalan and Madhavi were enjoying the breeze by the Cauvery river side in Pokar (modern name is Kaveripattinam). Kovalan sings a song refering the flirting nature of the river. In return, Madhavi sings a song hinting her affection towards someone else.
This creates a drift between them and Kovalan leaves Madhavi, reaches for Kanaki.
(Story picks up further speed from this point towards Kovalan's death and Kanaki's standpoint).
Coming back to Romeo and Juliet, let us hope Juliet will lead a happy life ever after (with whomever she chooses at this juncture).
2 comments:
Love is never selfish. And marriage is a life time partnership and should not be broken at any cost. There is great value to "marriage" , that brings two individuals together to lead their life happily and look after either families with great care. There after, Any sorrows/ happiness would be shared across wife , husband and either families ....
Love is never selfish!!
If Romeo really loved juliet, he should be happy that she got settled and if he wants to maintain friendship with her, then he should chat with her only to ask her welfare.
Even juliet should try to be only a friend rather than having any "feelings" towards romeo when she starts chatting with Romeo from US.This is because, marriage is already over!! irreversible process. "Divorce" is not there in my dictionary. Hence in my opinion, one should not think about divorce etc unless the situation is damn bad and that other person is really behaving inhuman..
In any marriage, there would be problems. if anything wrong with Ramasamy, always juliet, her parents, her uncle and (her best friend, Romeo) should discuss with Ramasamy and try to settle issues between the pair and allow them to live with each other happily..
If Ramasamy is very stubborn to accept any kind of suggestions, there are chances that he might understand her importance if she stays away for some period of time. One year of marriage bond will not end in seconds of quarrel. If juliet's previous affair was the problem of Ramasamy, then everything can be explained to him by Romeo that now it has all ended and that Ramasamy could stop thinking narrow minded and be more matured to accept the sacrifice done by romeo and juliet for the purpose of saving romeo's parents' bad health. Only when nothing works out, she should have come back to India and be happy that she didnot live with an unmatured guy. If the reason for Ramasamy's hatred was something else, then always he could be changed into proper way by proper communication and counselling. If nothing works out again, she could come back to India, start working and lead her life ALONE for sometime to get out of shocks given by her husband.
All the above discussion was done with an assumption that Romeo and Juliet were not selfish!!!
However when I read the later part of story, it appears they both were more selfish!! They chatted something else with each other which would have added to her thinking that she could not live with her husband.And still, divorce can happen and another marriage can happen and again they can live with each other...
a) Juliet, does she have any respect to marriage? Cant she have some time to think how to make a marriage a successful one? Cant she change her husbands bad way of thinking (if any). Or cant she stop thinking that she is someone else's property?
She could have lived happily with Ramasamy. And could have initiated to look a better girl for Romeo and get him married.
b) Romeo, does he respects marriage? how can he love another's wife? Cant he remain at distance and be happy to see the lady living happily with her husband? He did not take a proper action when ball was in his court!! Now, what right does he have to disturb the lady again after her marriage(Incase, if he did so)?
c) Ramasamy, if matured should resolve any kind of issues he has with his wife. If her "previous love" was an issue, he should be glad to have a wife who discussed everything plainly to him and that she is trying to find a match(girl) for Romeo. But, if ramasamy's wife is not looking to find a match for romeo but, wants to go herself and live with romeo, then there is no point from Ramasamy to stop her.. Just let her go!! its Ramasamy's fate!!
d) Finally, romeo and juliet wants to marry after juliet's divorce!!
Will Romeo really look after juliet? With an intention of taking revenge , he might show her real hell after marriage.
Juliet, who could not get satisfied with Ramasamy's love (as a husband), will never get satisfied with Romeo's love either (as a husband). All her life, she will remain wailing for what she did.
There are 100% chances that he brings her past life while quarreling or on any other occassion.
I feel, if Ramasamy is matured enough, then let Ramasamy and Juliet understand that marriage is done!! and they are one!!!. Try to resolve issues and get together again.. Look a girl for Romeo and brainwash him that what he is doing is 100% wrong. Romeo is not in love with her..but Romeo ony wants to get her at any chance!!! this is pure foolishness. Marriage is not only way to love the other person. Being friend also, we can love others.. Romeo should get married to another girl and everyone should be happy being family friends...
Still there is time, resolve the issues between Ramasamy and Juliet.. Tell juliet that marriage is over.Respect the feeling of marriage and the life spent with husband. Once decision is taken ,its final. she married Ramasamy that is final. she will get good days in near future once Romeo gets married and has his own life to lead...
Tell Romeo "what is love and what is stubbornness" . He never knew what is love and if his real intention is to trouble her after marriage, then tell him " he is not God. if Juliet has played with his life, she will suffer..God will punish her..He need not punish her.."
If really Romeo's intentions are good, then tell him.."After marrying juliet, he might come across situations, where Juliet might express that her prev husband was more good in taking care of her.." Its better not to live on this earth than to hear such words!!! No point in remarrying her.
That's a beautiful article, I have learned a lot
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